run amok

Depression is gay

The term depression gets bandied about a lot these days. As far as I can see it, there are three types of depressed people in this world. The first one is the stereotypical emo internet cam girl depression. It's not even really depression at all, it's basically just annoying attention seekers, dissatisfied with their lives trying to feed off the sympathy of anonymous others, and trying to create some assemblance of a unique identity from the one they decided to adopt. While this is sad, it is not depression, and anyone like this that claims to have depression should be hit with rakes.

The second type is the most serious; ordinary people affected by chemical imbalance or traumatic events that fall into a state of recurring serotonin depletion and don't know how to make it stop. These are the most serious in my humble opinion because they are not defined by their depression, and it is something that has happened to them, they are more likely to feel ashamed, embarassed, and insecure about their feelings (and subsequent actions and reactions). This becomes a self-sustaining cycle, as they feel bad about feeling bad, then proceed to feel worse. These are the highest suicide risk and should be paid the most attention; they usually will not go seeking it, or help, and as such end up worse. They will take it out on themselves in private, and can suffer horribly if left unchecked.

This brings me to the final and most intrusive type of depressed person. I'm sure you've all known at least one of these. This is the dependant, selfish depressimo. They will make you feel like shit, they will guilt you, they will take out every little problem and negative emotion on you, and they will ruin everything and everyone they touch. Do not under any circumstances try to 'save' one of these people. They will become dependant on you for help, and will tear at you when you don't help they way they want, which is impossible because they always have a new problem to be solved. This is going to come across as harsh, and I'm going to get hate-mail, but seriously, these people are just selfish fucks. Their problems are no more serious than type 2, but instead of taking responsibility and trying to deal with it, they blame the world and take it out on everyone else.

Never let the excuse get past you, "I didn't have a choice." That's bullshit. You can't choose your feeling sbut you ALWAYS choose your reaction to them, and it's that person's nature that determines the reaction. Good friends, therapy, and antidepressants can heal a type 2 person effectively, and get them back on track, but I have NEVER seen a type 3 recover until he/she wakes up one morning and realises that they have alienated everyone that used to care about them. Realising that no-one will save them is the ONLY motivation for change they will ever understand. Yeah, a harsh summation, but a well-justified one. They lie to, twist, and manipulate people to make themselves feel better, and that's pathetic. Take some responsibility. Unless your body is moving on its own, you chose to do every single thing you ever did, so grow up.<

You always have a choice.